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Homosexuality Q&A


What-The-Bible-Says-About-Homosexuality-300x2251. What about when people say they “are born this way”?

The Bible is very clear about this issue.  In Genesis 1:27, “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”  God is perfect in all ways and He made us in His OWN image!  We are born of perfection; sin is what makes us unclean and imperfect.

2. Times are changing, surely God would be okay with everybody just being happy and getting along versus fighting over the way some people choose to live?

What God wants is for His children to live in obedience to His word and live with a purposeful heart to spread the good news of the gospel.  God gave us commandments and principles to make our lives better and He promised us in 1 Corinthians 10:13 that, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.  God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”  God knows the human heart, after all He created us!  He knows we fall subject to sin but He also provides a way out of sin.  We too often choose to go our own way in life thinking it is easier.  But God tells us in Proverbs 3:6, “in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”  God wants obedience, He wants us to long for and rely on Him, He wants us to have faith in His ways, and He wants you and me to have victory in Christ.

3. Why should we care how other people live their lives if they aren’t hurting anyone?

Everyday Christians should be on a mission for Christ.  We should be seeking and saving those who are lost.  Acts 22:15 says, “You will be his witness to all people of what you have seen and heard.” Someone at one time took the time to reach you, to preach to you the good news of Jesus Christ.  We should also be doing the same for others.   We are also called to rebuke fellow believers when they are sinning.  James 5:20 reminds us to, “remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins.”  As Christians, we need to know when we are sinning so that we can repent and turn from our evil ways.  Sometimes we don’t recognize when we are sinning and even when we do we need to be held accountable to our fellow believers.

4. But what if you have feelings for the same sex?

We are all sinners just as it says in Romans 3:23, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”.  However, as Christians we must recognize our sins and change our mindset to praise God.  While we are born of perfection, we are subject to sinful thoughts and actions.  This sin is no different than an alcoholic struggling to not drink, a mother struggling to keep her voice down, a father fighting the urge to work late, or any person fighting any sin that keeps him away from giving God glory.  We need to recognize our sinful thoughts and ask God to change them.

5. Can a person repent of their homosexual activities and inherit the kingdom of God?

Absolutely!  We are all sinners and are all in need of the redemption and saving grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Romans 10:9-11 reminds us, “If you confess with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with your heart you believe and are put right with God, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.  As the Scripture says, ‘Anyone who trusts in Him will never be put to shame.’”  To be truly repent means to turn your back on sin completely.  You must believe in ALL the Bible and praise God in all circumstances.

6. Is it possible to be a Christian and be gay?

This is a question that is best left between each individual person and God.  I believe that as a Christian we should turn our back on ALL sin.  We cannot justify our sins to please our desires of the flesh.  As a Christian, we should strive to be like Christ in all that we do, in every way, and every day.  To knowingly sin and continue to sin, is not a true repentant heart aiming to serve God in every way.

You might also like to read Homosexuality and The Bible.


Modesty Q&A



Questions from the Christians and Modesty blog:

1. Does modesty mean wearing long dresses and veils?

It does not mean that at all.  The Bible says in Timothy 2:9, “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire.”  This means that your clothing should be covering your body in a God-honoring manner and respecting your body as a “temple”.  We need to dress appropriate for the occasion and without attracting attention to our bodies with our clothing, or lack of clothing.  This does not mean your need to wear a burka or a head covering at all times. However, if the Holy Spirit convicts you of wearing long dresses and veils, follow your heart and the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

2. The Bible calls your body a “temple”, what does that mean?

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 does say our body is a temple, Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”  As believer in Jesus Christ, we are blessed with the gift of the Holy Spirit.  God uses the Holy Spirit to speak to us on matters of the heart.  Once we have accepted Christ as our Lord and Savior, we are all given this gift and thus, our bodies become homes to the Holy Spirit.  Holy Spirit is one with God and we must protect and respect our bodies that house our Heavenly Father.

3. What about bathing suits and workout clothes?

Let me ask you this, what is the purpose of wearing a bikini or clothing that does not fully cover?  If you are wearing a bikini versus a one-piece bathing suit, will one be less cooling than the other?  Not at all!  With this, it’s safe to say that wearing a bikini or less clothing for working out, is nothing short of attracting the attention of other people.  And this is not becoming of our Lord.  Do girls really want other men gawking at them and staring at them?  Is it okay for us to tempt men or boys into lust?  There are cute bathing suits that cover our bodies just as there are cute workout clothes that also cover our bodies.  We need to remain respectful of our bodies even when it’s hot outside.

4. Doesn’t the Bible say something about girls not wearing men’s clothing?

This is true, in Deuteronomy 22:5 it does speak of women not wearing men’s clothing, “A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.”  God made us man and woman.  We are to dress according to who God created us.  We must stand apart as men and women so that we know who are leaders are and the heads of the households.  It’s important to become one with your spouse but it’s equally as important for husbands to be the leaders, just as God, Jesus and Holy Spirit are one, they too submit to God the Father as their leader.

5. What exactly do you consider immodest dress?

Immodest dress is anything that reveals parts of our bodies that should be for our spouse’s eyes only – shirts that are cut too low, skirts and dresses too short, bathing suits that reveal too much flesh.   When you fully spend time in prayer about clothing, Holy Spirit will convict you on what you should and should not wear.  If you are feeling that maybe the shirt is a bit too revealing, this is the Holy Spirit prompting you to choose another shirt.  Also, if you are wearing clothing that is intended to attract others’ attention, this is immodest dress.  If you are fully covered yet your apparel will attract unnecessary attention, this is immodest dress.  This can include bold and flashy jewelry, shoes used to attract attention to your legs, and extreme makeup.  Women can be beautiful without making other women feel uncomfortable and without attracting the glances of other men.

6. What does the Bible say about men and modesty?

Like women, men should also be respectful of their bodies and be mindful of their clothing.  Men should dress like men acting as leaders within the church and as spiritual leaders of our homes.  They too, need to be mindful of their swimming apparel as well as their workout clothing.   With modern trends always evolving, this is an issue that is coming to the forefront for men.

As Christians, we should always be cautious and aware of our clothing and accessories in all circumstances in addition to being mindful of other cultures.  What we may view as appropriate attire may be a complete disgrace in another culture.  What seemingly started as a harmless trend could actually have a very distasteful story behind it that we wouldn’t want any part of.

If ever in doubt just ask yourself…

Am I honoring others?  Am I honoring myself?  Am I honoring God?

If you can’t easily answer Yes, Yes and Yes then maybe another wardrobe selection should be made!

Homeschooling Q&A



These are questions from the original Christian Faith and Homeschooling blog:

1. We are called to share the Gospel with non-believers, but if children do not have interactions with non-believers how will they ever learn to do this? Will they be ready to go “out on their own” and how will they survive having always been sheltered from the real world? It’s a common misconception that home schooled children have no interaction with the rest of the world and in addition are sheltered from it. Not only is this most often not true, it is often true that home schooled children have more diverse and productive interaction with the rest of the world. Consider this-children in the typical public or private school classroom spend 7-8 hours a day interacting with mostly students their own age in a building that more than likely has a sub-culture of its own, here is not much interaction across age groups or with people outside of that school building. Most of their interaction with adults is limited to those who work in that building. Parents who home school their children have the amazing ability to not only create an academic oasis of their own within the walls of their house but they also have the incredible opportunity to allow their children to experience the world outside of their home in a way that children who are in a school building 5 days a week 9 months out of the year do not. When you home educate your children you can take them to see, touch, and experience the world instead of reading about it in a text book or watching a PowerPoint presentation about it in a classroom with a teacher and 29 other students. That also means you have an opportunity for more interaction with diverse people in the “real” world. From field trips to co-op groups to road trips to extracurricular activities, home schooled students will make relationships with non-believers and experience the world of non-believers in a way that traditionally educated students will not until they graduate and are “on their own”. How awesome to be there as a parent guiding your child, disciplining them, and being there with them when they experience interactions with non-believers. What a teaching moment to be out in the world with your children when they see something or have an interaction with someone that challenges their own faith. Another thing to consider is peer interaction… When students are educated in the home way, they learn how to interact and relate to people of diverse ages. A student who is educated at home most often has siblings of varying ages who are there as well. They learn how to coexist and work together and at times, teach each other. All three of these skills are essential skills that not only college admission counselors seek but employer’s desire as well. Home schooled children are often a part of some type of home school group-whether it is a co-op or theater group or something of the like. This means they will be working and learning side by side with children of all ages. These interactions develop character in students that is a well-marked difference between home schooled children and the typical traditionally educated child.

2. As a mom it is tough to balance everything, how do you get it all done? Yes. It always is. Home schooling is a sacrifice. It comes down, I believe, a few important “P”s – letting go of “perfectionism”, getting your “priorities” straight and “prayer”. Not to oversimplify things but I believe these three things to be most important. Starting with prayer-we all know how essential this is to our spiritual lives but we sometimes forget how essential it is and can be to our physical lives. Not only starting the day with prayer but sprinkling it with prayer all the way through is essential to me having a “good” day. Now let me address that definition of “good” day! Perfectionism-in all its forms-has to be let go of. You have to learn how to let go of certain expectations, those you put on yourself and those we sometimes carry from what the world says. Only our heavenly Father above is perfect and His ways are perfect. He has called us to be perfect you may remind me. Yes that is true-perfect as He is perfect which is in love. That brings me to priorities. It is imperative to have your priorities straight in order to achieve balance in all of this. I often say my most important task is to get my kids into heaven not Harvard. Loving them as God does and teaching them to love others the same way is high up on that priority list. I can have them doing calculus by 10 years old but if I haven’t imparted the Faith to them and taught them to love God and neighbor then its all for naught. Home schooling is not just a journey for the children but for the family. I believe that as I am taking my children by the hand and leading them down this path, the Lord is taking me by the hand and transforming me as well. I can well attest to the fact that He is doing things in and through me through this journey that would not happen if I entrusted my children to someone else’s care every day of the work week. It is hard but so was the path to the cross. But the victory was truly victorious!

3. Why not send your child to a private Christian school instead of public school? Sending my children to private Christian school would still not accomplish all of the goals we have for them. My husband and I want to be the primary educators of the Faith for our children. We want them to have a individualized education. We want them to have particular educational experiences in and out of the classroom that they will never get in a school environment with class rooms full of students and all of the challenges for teachers and administrators that go with running a school.

4. How do you teach your child when they are ready for advanced subjects like Calculus or advanced Spanish? Do they miss out on these subjects all together? There are various ways to accomplish this. Many home educators choose home school co-ops. These are college like situations where you take your student for specific classes that you do not feel like they can do at the house with your help. They are taught by teachers (these can be employed certified teachers from a community college for example or parents who are educated in these areas and work in those fields). Some parents choose online classes for these types of subjects. Some parents choose curriculum that comes with DVD and computer programs and learn alongside their student seeking out private tutoring in those areas for their child when needed. Another option is to take such courses through community colleges which often offer home school classes.

5. Isn’t it a better lesson to teach our children there will always be those that do not believe and we must stand firm in our faith? That lesson can just as well be taught while the child is in the home. In our culture we are so quick to get our kids out from under our wing and push them to fly. We are terrified that little Johnny will never become independent and that little Sally will never make friends. What if instead we kept the children under our wing for a bit longer, taught them how to be firm in their faith so that when they do experience trials and tribulations they have the confidence and belief to stand firm. Yes there will always be those that do not believe, but how much of that do I want to expose my five year old to? Once my child is no longer under my wing, he will have plenty of years to stand firm against the naysayers. There will be plenty of time for him to be tested and tried. I want to make sure he’s trained up well.

6. How do you homeschool when you have multiple children in different stages of learning? For example a 9mo old, 4 year old, and 7 year old? You must develop a schedule that works best for you. You also must change the way you see “school”. If you do this, it will free you and your children from a lot of stress. School does not have to look like what it looks like in the public school down the road. Remember, the system is the way it is because of a few reasons – it must educate mass number of children, it must keep them there while their parents work, and it seeks to produce good employees for the business world. How many of those listed reasons are your reasons for educating your children. I have an almost 6 year old, a 4 1/2 year old and twins who are almost 3. “School” is officially on our schedule for 3 days a week. But we try to stay in an active mode of learning. That means learning sometimes happens on the weekends or weeknights when we don’t actually have “school”. We normally do school in the mornings and it comes in spurts. With those ages I cannot expect to keep them at the table for more than 30 minutes and shouldn’t expect that from them. Boys at this age learn best from using their whole bodies and exploring inside and outside. I use a Kindergarten and PreK curriculum but add to it as needed. It is my road map but we take our own rest stops and often go off the beaten path, and they learn a lot that way! Sometimes I do additional learning activities with the two older boys when they little guys are napping. Most days we all learn together all of the time. I modify activities based off of age. I know some families who get help with the younger children from a family member or neighbor while they work exclusively with the older children on the more demanding lessons. The beauty is you can work it how you can work it. We recently went on a 7 day cruise with our extended family in October. I used the weeks leading up to it to teach the boys about the cultures of the 3 countries we were going to visit. We also learned about sea life. I integrated this theme into our math and literacy activities. What a learning experience it was for them! Even my 2 year old twins knew the Jamaican flag when they saw it because they had made one themselves. Everyone at every stage can learn something; you just have to modify it.

7. Do homeschool children miss out on school sports? There are many opportunities for sports. There are home school sport groups. In our area I know of sports for home schooled children going up to Varsity level. In addition to those groups you can play through city leagues. Also, club teams are just as much as an option for a home schooled child as a public school child. And for many sports, club is the most successful way to get noticed for college recruiting. Home schooled children also have the chance to participate in sports they might not be able to do if they were enrolled in school. Sports like horseback riding, martial arts, ice skating, gymnastics, fencing are often not offered in public school. When you home school, you can seek these things out on your own, exposing your children to much more.

8. Isn’t homeschool curriculum very expensive? Just like anything else there is a range of potential expense. There are free curriculum programs and there are those that can cost you hundreds of dollars a year if you purchase the whole program and receive help like grading, transcript recording and academic counseling.

9. Are there support groups, websites or local groups for support with homeschooling? There are many websites and local groups that support home schooling. One good place to start, besides a simple Google search, is your local public library. The library often has many home school resources because home school parents typically use the library systems for many resources and at times, classes. Three good websites I recommend are:

hslda.org – Homeschool Legal Defense Association – They have a plethora of information related to homeschooling
homeschool.com – This site is an online community which in addition to many curriculum recommendations also has a search engine for finding local support groups.
cathyduffyreviews.com – This is a popular curriculum review site for homeschoolers
homeschoolcentral.com– Homeschool Central with a list of resources

Guest post submitted by Monica – I am wife to an amazing man and my high school sweetheart and mother to our four beautiful boys. I home school our boys while also working part time as a high school counselor.  I’m a born-again Catholic who is very involved in my church and always excited and passionate to talk about my faith.

Missionary Q&A


1. Why would you want to live with the poor and sick and risk getting sick yourself?  The poor are often pushed aside and thought of as demented, mentally challenged, or simply lazy.  We don’t know how they became homeless or sick.  We don’t know their circumstances and it isn’t our place to judge.  It is our place to love and serve.  Everybody needs a chance to hear of Jesus’ love and redemption.  We are all called to serve the poor, the destitute, and the sick.  Paul says in the bible “All they asked was that we should continue to remember the poor, the very thing I was eager to do.”  The sick need help, they need medical intervention and they need someone to pray with them and offer hope.  The poor have basic needs that need to be met.  Any missionary will say, “Why not me?  Why shouldn’t that person be me?”

2. Why would you want to leave your family behind and what if a family emergency happens, how would you afford to get home?  Missionaries serve individually, serve as a group, or together as a family unit.  Either way, they often leave their extended families behind.  It’s important for missionaries to have their family support back home, knowing there is someone always praying for their safety and well-being and even for God’s will to be done through their family member.  Communication back home is oftentimes hard to maintain but through modern technology and with the help of social media, families can stay in touch.  If an emergency happens, everyone must remain faithful that God will provide, whether it be timing that communication can be made, a plane ticket home, or support from a nearby friend to offer comfort.

3. Why can’t you just help the sick and poor in America?  It is definitely true there are still poor and sick people right here in America and right here in our own cities.  Missionaries are called all over the place – local and overseas.  There are many organizations that provide help locally for the poor and needy and many times church groups will volunteer time to serve daily or short-term mission work.  It is far more time-consuming and costly to serve overseas and because of this,  serving locally may be your only option.  Missionaries who travel abroad want to serve where there is less help with less fortunate circumstances and God has provided them with the means to do so.

4. Why in the world would you want to give up money year after year and never earn a dime in return?  I would think all missionaries lean on scripture and faith knowing their God knows their needs and will provide.  Matthew 6: 31-34 says, “So do not worry saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.  But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.  Each day has enough trouble of its own.”  Missionaries have such incredible faith, knowing God will always provide, even for their basic needs.

5. How do you really know that God is calling you to missions and you secretly don’t just want to travel around the world?  I don’t think the mission field looks anything like a tourist vacation spot!  Missionaries do not have the funds to travel the world.  They raise the money needed for their plane tickets and once they are at their destination, any traveling they do is by foot.  A vacation to a missionary resembles a hot shower, any food other than rice and beans, and electricity.  You can tell in a missionaries eyes the passion they have and the desire they have to live just like those they are helping.  Who really wakes up and WANTS to live not knowing if they’ll eat that day, if they’ll get a foreign disease, or even if they’ll get to bathe?  Only those serving God truly desire to sacrifice those necessities and live faithfully that God will provide.

6. How do you live without money?  The Bible says in Hebrews 13:5 “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”  God provides basic needs through various means.  Churches and nonprofit organizations support missionaries and there are people who commit to supporting an individual person or family while they serve long-term.  Short-term missionaries often host fundraisers for their trips.  If you ever get the opportunity to support a missionary, do so.  The Bible says in Matthew 25:40 “‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'”  When you support a missionary, you too are caring for the poor and needy, you too are bringing people to Christ.

How will you serve?

Abortion Q&A


1. Why do you take such a stand against Planned Parenthood as not every location (if any) offers abortions anymore?  Planned Parenthood does provide abortions.  It is true that not all locations provide this service but some do.  However, all locations are owned and operated as one enterprise.  If you pay for any service at any Planned Parenthood location, those funds all go to one enterprise and are used as they see fit.  I prefer not even a dollar be put into the hands of Planned Parenthood for them to use as they choose.  Click HERE to confirm that Planned Parenthood does indeed still provide abortion options.

2. Do you believe that Planned Parenthood offers a service for women that really can’t be found elsewhere?  Absolutely not.  You can go to any family provider or gynecologist for a pap smear or information on STDs and family planning.  You may pay a higher price but you won’t be paying at the expense of a life,which ironically is the higher price.  There are also local and national agencies that want to help pregnant women with adoption or pregnancy care.

3. What would you do if you found yourself to be in a less than perfect situation where you found yourself with child?  When I was 17 I found out I was pregnant. I will not go into the details of this event but it was less than ideal.  Regardless, a life was forming inside of me and abortion was not an option.  My mom had me at age 17 and I have always been a huge part of her testimony and her redemption story.  How could I end a life when I too was not the ideal situation and saw firsthand how God worked in her (and my) life. Abortion should not be an option but adoption and keeping the baby are.  I choose to keep my baby and through faith allow God to restore my life and use the both of us to spread His good news.

4. Do you feel there are any circumstances that abortion is a viable decision?  No.  Abortion, in my opinion and based on Biblical truths, is never an option.

5. What if you were in a position where you and your husband had to decide between your life and the life of an unborn child?  As a believer in Christ, I would put my faith in God to do what is best for myself, my spouse, my unborn child, and my family.  Whatever the reason, God allowed that child to be conceived and He has not given me the right to end that life growing inside me.  My prayer would be that God heal me and the baby and that through that healing others would come to know Him.  But if that were not in His plans, I am comfortable enough in my faith to trust that God take care of my husband and family without me and would still pray that others come to know Jesus through my life.

6. What if you conceived at an early age….you weren’t ready, it was pre-marital sex, etc.?  As I mentioned before, I was 17 and pregnant.  I wasn’t ready.  I was scared, young, not married, in high school, and had no means to financially provide for myself or baby.  But I knew the risk factors when having sex (pre-marital sex at that).  Regardless of my sinful choices, it was not okay to commit yet another sin, the sin of taking a life.  I knew things needed to change right then for the both of us to fully live life.

7. Your husband has had a vasectomy, you aren’t supposed to ever be able to conceive again….what do you do if you find yourself pregnant? I had many complications with my last pregnancy (the first complication was contractions that started at 17 weeks gestation).  We were told that if we got pregnant again the likelihood of me being able to carry the baby was slim; that I would either miscarry early on or deliver too early for viability.  Because of the complications, my husband and I made the decision for him to have a vasectomy.  Since then I have also had a procedure done that is said to make me sterile.  We have talked about this very situation and I refer back to Question #5.  I will choose life for my child.  At this point, if I were to get pregnant, it would be God’s divine intervention and regardless of the outcome of the pregnancy, or even my own life, this would be in God’s plans and I trust Him to do what is best for our family.

8. How do you feel about birth control if you aren’t in a married situation? I think birth control outside of a marriage is still “birth control”.  You know you are doing wrong and making that sinful choice of premarital sex.  If you are truly living your life for Christ, then premarital sex wouldn’t be in the equation, and neither would birth control.

9. What about victims of rape? Should they have to carry a child that is a product of the rape to term? While a rape is a horrible crime on an innocent person, so is abortion of an innocent child.  The victim is not at fault and neither is the child.  I would suggest adoption in this case.  This child is still a gift from God, no matter how it was conceived.  Through faith, this situation can be a saving grace to someone.  The Bible tells us in Romans, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.”  If we are truly believers, we KNOW God will do good in every circumstance, even when it’s not ideal.  I recommend reading The Atonement Child by Francine Rivers.

10. What if your child was determined to have some fateful ailment that would cause death upon delivery? Would you choose to carry to term or abort? Absolutely I’d carry that baby to term!  My mom carried a child with anencephaly, which is the absence of part or all of the brain and/or skull.  So many people wondered why she continued to carry him to term.  But he was alive and well in her womb.  He kicked, practiced breathing, sucked his thumb, rolled around.  How do you just end the life of your child when he’s safe and sound tucked away in his mother’s womb?  They were told he may take a breath after delivery but unfortunately he died going through the birth canal.  He never took a single breath on his own.  But that little boys life has been a HUGE part of my mother’s testimony.  And here I am 25 years later still talking about his precious little life.  People hear his story and choose life for their child.  What an incredible life he lived, even if only in our mother’s womb!  So no, I would not choose to end my pregnancy.  I would choose to cherish every moment God gave me with that child.

11. What about women who do not have health insurance?  Where can they go for preventative care or health screen checks?  There are over 10,000 Federally Qualified Health Centers across the United States that offer these services.  There are less than 600 Planned Parenthood clinics and after tests done at PP, they then refer patients to FQHCs for further testing and referrals.  It makes sense to just go to the locations that do not perform abortions and provide the same, and even more, services.