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Testimony – God Had Bigger Plans for Our Family



I was raised in a loving home with parents who cared for me and provided for me. It was not, however, what I would call a “Christian” environment. My parents both professed to be believers, but we rarely went to church.  If I did go it was either for Easter or Christmas or after spending the night with my grandparents.  We didn’t read the Bible or pray together and I was not taught biblical truth. Around age 10, my grandma sent me to pre-teen camp with her church and that is where I was “SAVED”. After camp I tried to get my family to go to church; we tried a few different churches but didn’t really connect anywhere.

For the next few years I became quite confused. I spent a few weeks every summer with a family member who belonged to a Unitarian Church which basically teaches that whatever you choose to believe in is okay.  The church openly studies all different religions believing none are right or wrong, just different. Not being told any differently, I began to agree with them.  Although I knew who Christ was and had accepted Him as my Savior, I also had the opinion that my life was MINE and I was capable of making my own decisions, without any consequences.

I began to spend a lot of time with my best friend at her house along with her older brother and his friends where there was NO parental supervision.  As a teenager, I was very interested in boys and with the lack of supervision this was not a good combination.  I began to find ways to get the boys to notice me.  And they did. I wore clothes that were too tight, too short, and way to revealing.  And they noticed. I began making out with boys much older than me hoping for love and acceptance. Not to say my parents weren’t around or didn’t care because they did, I just got to be really great at lying and sneaking around and they had no idea what I was doing.  This behavior eventually led to me deciding I was “grown” and, at the extremely misguided age of 13, I had sex for the first time. I had convinced myself that I could make my own decisions and lead my own life without the need for any adult’s guidance.  The guy that I thought cared for and LOVED me really didn’t.

When I was 14 my family moved to Greenville, TX but I continued down the path of bad choices and bad boys who were much too old for me.  I tried dating a guy my age and he was a really nice guy; he was a gentleman, treated me respectfully, and didn’t push me physically.  Unfortunately, I didn’t know what to do with that!  I still was not going to church, not growing spiritually, and was living like a lost soul.

This is when God intervened. When I was 15, I met the guy I would eventually marry. His dad was a preacher and one of the conditions of dating him was going to his dad’s church.  Only one problem… it was all in Spanish!! I didn’t speak Spanish, didn’t know what they were talking about, and stayed confused most of the time. But I loved that guy!  Although not many changes were being made in my life, I began to learn Spanish and pay closer attention in church.

We were married when I was just 17 years old and had our first baby when I was 20. While we were still attending church with my in-laws, if we went at all, I just wasn’t being filled.  After I had my second child at the age of 22, we began the search for a new church. Once again God stepped in!  We found a church and got connected instantly; which is where we still worship today.  I began to crave more knowledge and wanted to know more about the Bible and live my life for God, not just for myself.  We had two more children when I was 25 and 28.  All four of our children were girls. Life was good. Although I had worked full-time on and off and part-time here and there, I was able to stay home majority of the time with my girls.

I was truly happy with our family but knew something was missing.  I longed for a son and repeatedly prayed for one and pleaded with God that if that was not part of His plan for my life to take that desire from me.  Just three days after giving birth to our fourth beautiful baby girl, I became ill. I spent some time in the hospital with strep and went home not knowing that the illness had caused a blood clot to form somewhere in my body.  Two months later I returned to the hospital with a pulmonary embolism and was told that if it was meant to kill me, it would have done so already.  Quite a sobering thought but God had bigger plans for my life and our family.  A loving husband, three gorgeous little girls, a two-month old precious baby, two great parents, and an amazing group of friends were all there to love on me and take care of me. What more could I have asked for? God had richly blessed me! So why did I still have a need for more? Why was I still longing for a baby boy?  I had been told by my physician that I could not have any more children.  This was something my husband and I had already decided on our own since we had four girls (that’s expensive) but being told you cannot have any more children and having someone else make that choice for you are two VERY different things.  But life went on.

In the fall of 2008, we got a strange call.  My mom had called to give us the latest saga about a family member of ours.  His two children had been removed from his care by CPS. This was actually good news for the children since he really had no business raising these kids.  We had been praying for a good home for them and a stable family to come into their lives for quite some time.  My mom proceeded to tell us of how CPS was looking for a family member to place the boys with and they had asked my parents to be that family member for them.  My parents were in their late 50s at this point with 9 grandchildren.  Needless to say, they declined.

As my husband and I were discussing the situation and how outrageous it was for them to ask my parents, my husband tells me that God was telling him that WE are supposed to be the family for those two young boys.  Now wait a minute! I love my girls but there were times I couldn’t wait to get all of them out of the house for a few hours a day! I had the older ones in school and I just had the little one at home with me during the day and had been devising a plan to get her into Mother’s Day out program. I must say though, we had also always been open to the idea of adoption and after 4 girls we teased that it was the only way we would get our boy, but this seemed so sudden and we weren’t quite prepared yet.  We agreed to pray about it, made some calls and asked some questions, but made no commitments.

One October evening I received a phone call from a social worker and was told what the process would look like and got some general information.  By this time, our prayers had changed from “Are you sure, God?” to “If this is what you want, then we trust you will make this happen”. The very next day, we received another phone call from the same social worker, that there was an infant sibling, also in state care, and asking, “Are you willing to consider placement for him as well?” STOP IT! THREE KIDS! THREE MORE KIDS? We already have four children! I mean really, who has seven kids? Nobody! [Insert more prayer here.] We just continued our prayer of, “Ok God, this is ALL you.” We decided that they were all brothers and needed to stay together. How could we one day face the two boys when they are older and say “We knew you had a brother, but that would have been too much of an inconvenience for us, so we decided to say no thanks”? We simply couldn’t do it.

We had many talks with our girls and wanted this to be a family decision. We wanted them aware of the coming changes in our lives and not to feel this was being forced on them. We began to make the necessary arrangements and to have weekly visitations at CPS with the boys. The visits were intended to be for the parents, but they hardly ever showed. We didn’t want to cause any more undue trauma for these little guys and wanted them to at least be familiar with us before they came to live with yet another family. Our two oldest boys were placed with us at ages 21 & 31 months old in February of 2009. Our youngest daughter was 18 months old at the time and had been to most of the visits with us.

There was ALOT of adjusting for everyone and a move to a bigger house; it was quite stressful, exhausting, and emotional to say the least. The Mother’s Day Out program our daughter had attended a few years earlier, wonderfully “scholarshiped” us for about 4-5 months for my sanity. Then summer activities began in addition to parent visitations with their biological parents and fighting for our youngest to be placed with us as well.  He was eventually placed in our care in October 2009 at the age of 11 months.

Although I always felt led to homeschool, even before our oldest daughter started school, the timing had just never seemed right. Our three oldest girls were in public school and our oldest boy had just begun Head Start.  He was not adjusting very well to all these transitions including school and the addition of our youngest boy.  After another move, more home studies, and more waiting, our adoption was FINALLY complete in July 2010. After a CRAZY fall semester of five kids at two different schools, two at Mother’s Day Out, a child with a broken femur, and me feeling pulled in multiple directions, God was telling us it was time to homeschool.  We pulled them out of school in January of 2011 and started our bumpy and blessed road to homeschooling. Our oldest two children were NOT happy at the time.  The 6th grader had been in either public or private school since age four and felt we were taking away her life, the 4th grader was mad because we had taken away her friends, and our oldest boy in 1st grade didn’t really seem to care either way. Our oldest child will be in high school this next school year (September 2013) and when given the choice, she chose to continue homeschooling.  In fact they all did!

It is an adventure everyday to say the least and most days are completely nuts but we won’t ever go back to public school voluntarily. I’ll admit there are days I dream about how much I could accomplish with everyone gone for 8 hours a day, but what we’re building in them every day is so much more important than homework and completed projects. I’ve told them that it would be easier for me to put them in school and let someone else teach them, but life isn’t about doing the easy thing.  It’s about doing the right thing, which means obeying God. This is what God has called us to do during this season of our lives and this is what we are going to do. I love our time together and for our large family it works perfectly. We set our own schedule and are able to keep it extremely flexible. While we didn’t have problems with the school system or any of their teachers or schools, we didn’t do well with an ISD telling us when to be where at what time and am so happy we don’t have to deal with all the new rules due to current events or any standardized testing. When I hear other parents complain about school related issues, I feel complete contentment in my heart and hear God reassuring me we are doing what He has planned for us.

About 7 years ago I got involved in a Women’s Bible study, and about 2 and a half years ago God put it on my heart to get involved with the youth.  God has been telling me to use my past mistakes and experiences to mentor young girls and help them from making the same mistakes I made as a youth. Seeing as I now have seven souls in my care, I am very passionate about teaching them God’s plan for sex and marriage.  I want them to know what I didn’t know then.  God gives us guidelines to follow in all areas of our lives for our benefit.  He knows what He is talking about. Sex is a BIG deal, it DOES matter, and it does change things!  Sex is not something you can undo.  Even though God offers forgiveness and grace, there are consequences for our sinful choices, and some can be life-long costs. I’m now trying to help young ladies to see the lies the devil is telling them and to know that the attention they receive from dressing “cute” is not the right kind of attention they really want. I truly believe that most girls don’t understand what guys are thinking when they wear certain things. Please hear my heart on this… I know from personal experience, if you don’t wait until you are married to have sex, you WILL regret it.  I don’t want that for anyone!  Sex is meant to be a special gift from God for a husband and a wife. My hope is that we can drown out the constant barrage of lies from our culture and raise-up a generation who treasures purity, a generation who is proud of their virginity and not ashamed of it, and a generation who will follow God’s plan for their lives. My hope is that we can raise a generation of Christians who can change the world for Christ.

I hope my story can help someone on a similar path. May God richly bless you as He has me!



Homeschooling Q&A



These are questions from the original Christian Faith and Homeschooling blog:

1. We are called to share the Gospel with non-believers, but if children do not have interactions with non-believers how will they ever learn to do this? Will they be ready to go “out on their own” and how will they survive having always been sheltered from the real world? It’s a common misconception that home schooled children have no interaction with the rest of the world and in addition are sheltered from it. Not only is this most often not true, it is often true that home schooled children have more diverse and productive interaction with the rest of the world. Consider this-children in the typical public or private school classroom spend 7-8 hours a day interacting with mostly students their own age in a building that more than likely has a sub-culture of its own, here is not much interaction across age groups or with people outside of that school building. Most of their interaction with adults is limited to those who work in that building. Parents who home school their children have the amazing ability to not only create an academic oasis of their own within the walls of their house but they also have the incredible opportunity to allow their children to experience the world outside of their home in a way that children who are in a school building 5 days a week 9 months out of the year do not. When you home educate your children you can take them to see, touch, and experience the world instead of reading about it in a text book or watching a PowerPoint presentation about it in a classroom with a teacher and 29 other students. That also means you have an opportunity for more interaction with diverse people in the “real” world. From field trips to co-op groups to road trips to extracurricular activities, home schooled students will make relationships with non-believers and experience the world of non-believers in a way that traditionally educated students will not until they graduate and are “on their own”. How awesome to be there as a parent guiding your child, disciplining them, and being there with them when they experience interactions with non-believers. What a teaching moment to be out in the world with your children when they see something or have an interaction with someone that challenges their own faith. Another thing to consider is peer interaction… When students are educated in the home way, they learn how to interact and relate to people of diverse ages. A student who is educated at home most often has siblings of varying ages who are there as well. They learn how to coexist and work together and at times, teach each other. All three of these skills are essential skills that not only college admission counselors seek but employer’s desire as well. Home schooled children are often a part of some type of home school group-whether it is a co-op or theater group or something of the like. This means they will be working and learning side by side with children of all ages. These interactions develop character in students that is a well-marked difference between home schooled children and the typical traditionally educated child.

2. As a mom it is tough to balance everything, how do you get it all done? Yes. It always is. Home schooling is a sacrifice. It comes down, I believe, a few important “P”s – letting go of “perfectionism”, getting your “priorities” straight and “prayer”. Not to oversimplify things but I believe these three things to be most important. Starting with prayer-we all know how essential this is to our spiritual lives but we sometimes forget how essential it is and can be to our physical lives. Not only starting the day with prayer but sprinkling it with prayer all the way through is essential to me having a “good” day. Now let me address that definition of “good” day! Perfectionism-in all its forms-has to be let go of. You have to learn how to let go of certain expectations, those you put on yourself and those we sometimes carry from what the world says. Only our heavenly Father above is perfect and His ways are perfect. He has called us to be perfect you may remind me. Yes that is true-perfect as He is perfect which is in love. That brings me to priorities. It is imperative to have your priorities straight in order to achieve balance in all of this. I often say my most important task is to get my kids into heaven not Harvard. Loving them as God does and teaching them to love others the same way is high up on that priority list. I can have them doing calculus by 10 years old but if I haven’t imparted the Faith to them and taught them to love God and neighbor then its all for naught. Home schooling is not just a journey for the children but for the family. I believe that as I am taking my children by the hand and leading them down this path, the Lord is taking me by the hand and transforming me as well. I can well attest to the fact that He is doing things in and through me through this journey that would not happen if I entrusted my children to someone else’s care every day of the work week. It is hard but so was the path to the cross. But the victory was truly victorious!

3. Why not send your child to a private Christian school instead of public school? Sending my children to private Christian school would still not accomplish all of the goals we have for them. My husband and I want to be the primary educators of the Faith for our children. We want them to have a individualized education. We want them to have particular educational experiences in and out of the classroom that they will never get in a school environment with class rooms full of students and all of the challenges for teachers and administrators that go with running a school.

4. How do you teach your child when they are ready for advanced subjects like Calculus or advanced Spanish? Do they miss out on these subjects all together? There are various ways to accomplish this. Many home educators choose home school co-ops. These are college like situations where you take your student for specific classes that you do not feel like they can do at the house with your help. They are taught by teachers (these can be employed certified teachers from a community college for example or parents who are educated in these areas and work in those fields). Some parents choose online classes for these types of subjects. Some parents choose curriculum that comes with DVD and computer programs and learn alongside their student seeking out private tutoring in those areas for their child when needed. Another option is to take such courses through community colleges which often offer home school classes.

5. Isn’t it a better lesson to teach our children there will always be those that do not believe and we must stand firm in our faith? That lesson can just as well be taught while the child is in the home. In our culture we are so quick to get our kids out from under our wing and push them to fly. We are terrified that little Johnny will never become independent and that little Sally will never make friends. What if instead we kept the children under our wing for a bit longer, taught them how to be firm in their faith so that when they do experience trials and tribulations they have the confidence and belief to stand firm. Yes there will always be those that do not believe, but how much of that do I want to expose my five year old to? Once my child is no longer under my wing, he will have plenty of years to stand firm against the naysayers. There will be plenty of time for him to be tested and tried. I want to make sure he’s trained up well.

6. How do you homeschool when you have multiple children in different stages of learning? For example a 9mo old, 4 year old, and 7 year old? You must develop a schedule that works best for you. You also must change the way you see “school”. If you do this, it will free you and your children from a lot of stress. School does not have to look like what it looks like in the public school down the road. Remember, the system is the way it is because of a few reasons – it must educate mass number of children, it must keep them there while their parents work, and it seeks to produce good employees for the business world. How many of those listed reasons are your reasons for educating your children. I have an almost 6 year old, a 4 1/2 year old and twins who are almost 3. “School” is officially on our schedule for 3 days a week. But we try to stay in an active mode of learning. That means learning sometimes happens on the weekends or weeknights when we don’t actually have “school”. We normally do school in the mornings and it comes in spurts. With those ages I cannot expect to keep them at the table for more than 30 minutes and shouldn’t expect that from them. Boys at this age learn best from using their whole bodies and exploring inside and outside. I use a Kindergarten and PreK curriculum but add to it as needed. It is my road map but we take our own rest stops and often go off the beaten path, and they learn a lot that way! Sometimes I do additional learning activities with the two older boys when they little guys are napping. Most days we all learn together all of the time. I modify activities based off of age. I know some families who get help with the younger children from a family member or neighbor while they work exclusively with the older children on the more demanding lessons. The beauty is you can work it how you can work it. We recently went on a 7 day cruise with our extended family in October. I used the weeks leading up to it to teach the boys about the cultures of the 3 countries we were going to visit. We also learned about sea life. I integrated this theme into our math and literacy activities. What a learning experience it was for them! Even my 2 year old twins knew the Jamaican flag when they saw it because they had made one themselves. Everyone at every stage can learn something; you just have to modify it.

7. Do homeschool children miss out on school sports? There are many opportunities for sports. There are home school sport groups. In our area I know of sports for home schooled children going up to Varsity level. In addition to those groups you can play through city leagues. Also, club teams are just as much as an option for a home schooled child as a public school child. And for many sports, club is the most successful way to get noticed for college recruiting. Home schooled children also have the chance to participate in sports they might not be able to do if they were enrolled in school. Sports like horseback riding, martial arts, ice skating, gymnastics, fencing are often not offered in public school. When you home school, you can seek these things out on your own, exposing your children to much more.

8. Isn’t homeschool curriculum very expensive? Just like anything else there is a range of potential expense. There are free curriculum programs and there are those that can cost you hundreds of dollars a year if you purchase the whole program and receive help like grading, transcript recording and academic counseling.

9. Are there support groups, websites or local groups for support with homeschooling? There are many websites and local groups that support home schooling. One good place to start, besides a simple Google search, is your local public library. The library often has many home school resources because home school parents typically use the library systems for many resources and at times, classes. Three good websites I recommend are:

hslda.org – Homeschool Legal Defense Association – They have a plethora of information related to homeschooling
homeschool.com – This site is an online community which in addition to many curriculum recommendations also has a search engine for finding local support groups.
cathyduffyreviews.com – This is a popular curriculum review site for homeschoolers
homeschoolcentral.com– Homeschool Central with a list of resources

Guest post submitted by Monica – I am wife to an amazing man and my high school sweetheart and mother to our four beautiful boys. I home school our boys while also working part time as a high school counselor.  I’m a born-again Catholic who is very involved in my church and always excited and passionate to talk about my faith.

Christian Faith and Homeschooling


The question of whether or not to homeschool can be a real struggle for some Christian families who not only want the best academically for their children but want the best spiritually for them in this life and the one to come.  Some of the typical responses to this debate reflect on the issues of faith formation and evangelism.  Do you send your child out to public or private school to be “light” and “salt” to the world?  Or do you keep them safely under your wing at home helping them to “not conform” to this world”?  Is there an objectively correct response to this question?

I think it is safe to say that one has to tread lightly on this issue due to the intense feelings many people experience relating to this topic.  As a mom who homeschools her four young children and works part time as a counselor in a public school, I can tell you there are at times cutting remarks made from people on both sides of the debate.  These results are usually characterized by the stereotypical characterization of homeschooled children as social misfits and the generalized judgment that sending your children to public school is like sending them into the “enemy’s camp”.

Instead of beginning with a long list of Bible verses to support either side of the issue, complimentary to my counselor nature, allow me to begin this discussion with some ground rules.  When engaging in this debate I believe it is important to work from an essential premise; children are a gift from God that He loans to parents – Yes, they are loaned to us – they belong to Him!  We then have the primary responsibility of caring for them holistically (physically, spiritually, emotionally and intellectually) and raising them to love and serve Him.  In addition, keep in mind, that we are not “raising Godly children” – we are raising “Godly children to be Godly adults.”  Therefore, when engaging in this discussion we need to believe that the educational choices of the parents comes as a result of reflection, thought and prayer to meet those end goals.  If we start with this main premise then we leave room for the Holy Spirit to work in others’ lives as they use prayer and discernment to decide what is best for their children.  If this beginning premise is not true, then it is a different discussion.

There are numerous reasons in favor of homeschooling and not homeschooling, I’m not going to give that list either!  Here’s the kicker – those reasons differ for each child.  There is no list of “for” or “against” it that is the same for each child.  There are so many aspects to reflect on that one truly has to take them all into consideration when weighing the decision.  What is best for the child spiritually?  What is best for the child academically?  What is best for the child socially and emotionally? What is best for the child physically? If you ignore any one of those areas in the discernment process, you fail to respect the child as the whole being God created him or her to be.  We are not purely spiritual beings, purely academic, purely physical, or purely emotive beings.  We are a beautiful combination of those things and each area merits thought and reflection.

Let’s go back to the main goal.  To sum it up, raising our children to love and serve God, to be holy as He has called us to be holy.  Do you have to homeschool to do this?  Maybe.  Could homeschooling be an obstacle to you being able to do this?  Maybe.  One thing is for sure, either way you go, you must participate in intentional parenting.  Parenting that requires self-donative love, holy example setting, and continual presence (physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual).

So how about that list of Bible verses?  Well the Bible does speak to us about our role and responsibility as parents.  Take a look at this list (which is not by any means exhaustive) and take some inventory as to how you are doing in these areas.  Maybe you need to reflect on the current educational situation of your children and see if it fits with your child, your family and the heaven-bound goals you have set.  If you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to come up with an educational mission statement.  God has led us to homeschool at this current time and so our mission statement is a homeschooling mission statement.  Whichever “school” setting your children are in and however your mission statement reads, it should be influenced by the word of God.

  • Ephesians 6:4 – “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord”.
  • Proverbs 22:6 – “Train a boy in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not swerve from it”.
  • Deuteronomy 6:6-9 – “Take to heart these words which I enjoin on you today.  Drill them into your children.  Speak of them at home and abroad, whether you are busy or at rest.  Bind them at your wrist as a sign and let them be as a pendant on your forehead.  Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates”.
  • Proverbs 29:17 – “Correct your son, and he will bring you comfort, and give delight to your soul”.

And one of my favorites that I believe really sums up the goal in our house-school and all-

  • Joshua 24:15 – “As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord”.

Public school, charter school, private school, life school, homeschool or something in between, serving the Lord is the ultimate end result.  As one of my favorite homeschooling mom authors has said many times, “My goal is to get them to heaven not Harvard”!  And if God so blesses us to get one or four of our children to Harvard along the way…it will be icing on the cake!

For more information on homeschooling, read our Homeschooling Q&A blog.


Guest post submitted by Monica – I am wife to an amazing man and my high school sweetheart and mother to our four beautiful boys. I home school our boys while also working part time as a high school counselor.  I’m a born-again Catholic who is very involved in my church and always excited and passionate to talk about my faith.